High School Love is a phrase my husband came up with while he was away one weekend with his friends. He used that phrase to describe the little things that we like to do, like snuggle on the couch and watch a movie, and calling each other on the phone when we can’t be near one another. You know the stuff you used to do in high school. Before you said that this is the one person you are going to spend the rest of your life with you dated! You put on makeup to see them. You made sure you were always on your best behavior. You let them know how much they mean to you. We need to ask ourselves if we are still doing those things? A relationship is like a machine. If you don’t give it proper maintenance, the engine will cease up. President David O. McKay of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints said,
“Love as the body, must have nourishment or it will starve. There is no great thing the man or woman can do to keep love alive and healthy, but there are many little things given daily and, if possible, hourly – a kind word, a courteous act, a smile, an endearing term, a sparkle in the eye, an unexpected service, a birthday greeting, a remembering of the wedding anniversary – these and a hundred other seemingly insignificant deeds and expressions are the food upon which love thrives.” (Home Memories of President David O. McKay as quoted in Rex Skidmore, I Thee Wed)
It’s definitely the little things that will keep relationships alive. It is also the little things that can kill a relationship. If you are constantly worried about if the pantry door is closed or the clothes in the bedroom are picked up, then you are not concentrating on loving your spouse. You are concentrating on the things your spouse does that annoy you. That can breed contention in your relationship and it will start to errode the happy loving feelings you have for your spouse.
My challenge! Whenever you see your spouse doing something that annoys you or would otherwise make you mad, go and give them a hug and a kiss instead of pointing it out. See what that does to your relationship for the week.